In Paraguay and across the Spanish-speaking world, the phrase “Madre hay una sola” (There is only one mother) has become a near-universal cultural touchstone. According to a report by Última Hora, the saying originates in oral tradition, gaining traction in 19th-century literature, theater, and religious sermons in Spain and Latin America. Over time, it evolved into a collective certainty about the irreplaceable symbolic role of mothers.
Psychologists interviewed by the outlet underscore the deep emotional imprint of the maternal bond. Clinical psychologist Nunila Basualdo explains that “the early bond with the mother influences self-esteem, shaping the infant’s character to form a secure, balanced personality capable of facing adult life.” She emphasizes that mothers provide not only physical care but also emotional and affective support. “If the mother responds to the infant’s needs, that child grows up self-confident, able to achieve goals, and with good social relationships,” Basualdo says.
Conversely, unmet emotional needs can lead to adult difficulties. Basualdo warns that “if needs were not satisfied, the person may become overly self-sufficient or suppress emotions. If the relationship was insecure or ambivalent, they will constantly seek external approval and be unaware of their own potential.” She advocates for a close, horizontal bond during childhood and adolescence.
Basualdo also addresses the pain of maternal absence, noting that “every grief is painful, not just the loss of a mother. It is healthy to experience sadness and go through the grieving process. Each person’s timing is very personal.” She advises family support during sensitive periods, such as Mother’s Day, and urges gratitude before loss: “We should accept our mothers with their virtues and flaws, understanding they did the best they could with what they had—there is no school for parents.”
Clinical psychologist Nathalia Gamarra Herrera describes the maternal figure as “a kind of invisible structure that builds identity,” functioning as “a mirror of self-esteem; the place where one learns to manage emotions and build the capacity to love through attachment.” She notes that mothers influence adult autonomy based on “how much space they gave for error,” directly impacting whether children become more independent or emotionally dependent. Gamarra contrasts “helicopter” parenting, which can produce adults who struggle to make decisions, with independence-fostering approaches that promote a sense of competence and personal efficacy.
These insights from Paraguayan mental health professionals highlight the enduring psychological significance of the mother-child relationship, reinforcing the cultural weight of the saying that has resonated for generations.